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Beautiful Burma

We get asked a lot, “What is your favorite place you’ve traveled?” My standard answer for the past 10 years has always been Turkey, and a shout out for my love Paris.  If I had a dollar for every time I said that, I would be headed back to the Istanbul all-expenses paid.  That all changed last year. Luci and I went to Burma.  Burma changed my favorite place answer and more importantly, it changed me.

Myanmar, the country formerly known as Burma, is located in between India and Thailand.  Burma has a rich history, one of beauty and conflict.  If you can get beyond the challenges and meet the people and storied history, you are in for a powerful journey.

Our trip to the region took us to two strikingly different areas within the country: Bagan and Mt. Popa. Both are not to be missed, and candidly, they are the tip of the iceberg of Burmese beauty and mystery.

Before You Go

Be aware that the Myanmar government limits where foreigners are able to travel.  It is critical that you understand in advance where you are allowed to travel.  Going to and from Bagan, Myanmar, will not take you anywhere near prohibited areas. No need to worry.  Myanmar has made giant leaps forward in welcoming tourists.  Don’t forget to arrange your visa: https://evisa.moip.gov.mm/.  It is helpful to learn a few basic phrases in Burmese. English is not widely spoken beyond the tourist areas. 

Getting There

There are two major international airports in the country: Yangon, the capital, and Mandalay.  If your focus is Bagan, Mandalay is the best choice.  We elected to connect via Bangkok, Thailand.  Connection options include many of the major hubs in Asia. 

Currency

The currency of Myanmar is the Myanmar Kyat.  While we did find ATMs in Bagan, they were not plentiful.  We would recommend not going thin on cash, as credit cards are not widely accepted.  The exchange rate is favorable to Westerners, making Burma perfect for the budget focused traveler. We often joke that Myanmar makes Thailand look expensive. We found the food, accommodation, and transportation to be very affordable. Luci got a two-hour massage for $12.

We landed at the Mandalay Airport and we had arranged in advance a car service to take us the four-hour drive to Bagan.  If you arrive after 4 p.m., we might recommend that you overnight in Mandalay and then take the drive into Bagan.  Half of the drive will be on a modern freeway.  The remainder of the drive will be winding through small Burmese towns and fields. There are few road signs and the roads can be rough. We loved the drive and were glad we didn’t elect to rent a car.

Beautiful Bagan

Bagan is steeped in spiritual and political history.  It once was the capital city of the Pagan Kingdom.  It was a thriving center of commerce and religious practice from the 9th to the 13th centuries. At its height, it was home to over 10,000 Buddhist temples and monasteries.  Later, a number of Hindu temples were added to the mix. Today, you can visit over 2,000 different structures that dot the valley.  It truly rivals Angkor Wat.  Most, if not all, of the temples are open to visitors.  A number of earthquakes have rocked the area over the centuries.  Some of the temples are in disrepair and some of the larger temples are under reconstruction.  In August 2016 a major earthquake hit the area and over 400 temples were destroyed.  For obvious reasons, do not delay your visit to the area.

Getting Around

We highly recommend renting an electric scooter.  They are simple to drive and very affordable.  We paid $3 (US currency) a day!  They brought them right to our B and B.  The temples are spread out and the valley is vast.  There is no way to do it on foot.  We recommend the first day of your visit to hire a guide that can give you an introduction and overview of the history and religious importance of the temples. 

Rent a scooter!

Sunrise and Sunset

The Bagan Valley is one of the most photogenic locations we have ever visited.  This is especially true during the “golden hour” at dawn and dusk.  During the right season, you can board a hot air balloon. We unfortunately, we didn’t time our visit to allow this. Bummer. The views from the balloons must be amazing! Next trip!

Visiting Temples

Know that most temples are still active religious centers. You will be expected to show reverence and respect.   This begins with the attire.  It is important to be modest in your clothing choices.  You will be asked to remove you shoes in most temples.  This can be very hot on the feet and a nightmare for germaphobes (Luci). In the major temples, you will be asked to keep your voices low.

Accommodations

Good news, bad news.  Major hotel chains have not landed in Bagan.  This is great news.  Bad news is the good places fill up quickly.  Most have a mom and pop B and B feel.  Make your bookings early.  We recommend the Tripadvisor.com to get the latest intel on the best places to rest your head.  We stayed at the Bluebird.  It was beyond our expectations. The service rivaled a five star hotel and the food was excellent.

Bagan Temple

The Food

There are a number of restaurants along the Irrawaddy River.  Dinner at sunset overlooking the river is magical.  While there a host of different options for every taste, western options are limited.  Most of the fruits and veggies are locally sourced.  The local specialty is actually peanuts.  They are sooo good!  Bring us back some?

A view of the Buddhist compound from Mt. Popa

Mt. Popa

A wonderful side trip from Bagan is going to Mt. Popa.  The Mt. Popa National Park is densely forested former volcano.  It is nothing short of beautiful.  There are a number of resorts overlooking the famous Buddhist monastery that is perched on a volcanic outcropping.   Words cannot describe just how beautiful it is.

Getting There

Getting to Mt. Popa is simple.  Just hire a car and take the 1 hour 30 drive.  There is are interesting little town right at the base of the volcano that has an incredible selection of fruit.  The exotic fresh fruit is yummy!

Needless to say, Bagan is one of the special places on the planet.  In time, we worry that it will become over commercialized as Angkor has.  Visit soon to see it in its pristine beauty. 

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Trip To Rome With My Dictator Wife

In 2011 my wife (The Barcelonan Beauty) and I decided to take a trip to Europe. We set out for an enjoyable break from the daily grind back in the U.S. After all, it’s a vacation – a time to relax, right?

At least that’s what I thought.

It all started in Barcelona, where we stayed for two weeks (that’s where my wife is from and where my in-laws live). Our plan was to stay in Barcelona, visit her family, and head off to Andorra for three days, to be followed by a weeklong stay in Rome.

Andorra fell through because my wife’s cousin Edu (short for Eduardo) was plagued with a fierce cold after he agreed to drive us up to the Pyrenees Mountains, for some skiing and a nice spa day in Caldea.

Sure, I was disappointed, but it wasn’t too big a deal. At least not compared to the level of disappointment and frustration I was about to experience in Rome.

Her personal Reign Of Terror taken from the Power Brokers Playbook.

Don’t let her cute little smile fool you – she’s a Travel Dictator of the highest order.

Don’t let her cute little smile fool you –
she’s a Travel Dictator of the highest order.

It’s important to me that you know I love my wife and she loves me. She’s a loving, compassionate, and (for the most part) tenderhearted person. I speak the truth when I tell people she really is my best friend.

But when it comes to traveling (be it to Rome or to Disney Land) my Barcelonan Bride makes Mussolini look like the Dalai Lama. Yes, when traveling, her absolute power corrupts absolutely.

And when she puts on her Dictator’s Hat, like she did in Rome, I’m sure to become a dissident. And that’s exactly what happened.

Here were the planks of her Travel Manifesto during her Reign Of Terror in Rome:

  • Subjects must strictly adhere to the Rome Itinerary put together by Barcelonan Beauty. Variations from the formal Rome Itinerary will result in endless bickering and forced celibacy.
  • Any purchases of souvenirs for the sake of enjoyment and remembrance must be approved by Barcelonan Beauty. Transactions that are not approved will result in endless bickering and forced celibacy.
  • Rome Itinerary takes precedence over subject’s hunger, sickness, and general lack of enjoyment. Voicing concerns of any kind is punishable by way of … you guessed it, endless bickering and forced celibacy.

During our weeklong stay in Rome I violated all three planks set forth by the Barcelonan Beauty.

The benevolent and misguided tyrant that she became.

To her credit, my wife is an expert event planner and she did arrange the entire trip to Rome. But her itinerary was so rigid it was difficult to enjoy anything, and I loathe having to abide by rigid plans or itineraries of any kind – especially when I’m on vacation.

For me, relaxing means enjoying the moment and taking in all of the details of my surroundings.

In Rome, there are thousands of years of history staring at you, everywhere you turn. The Coloseum, St. Peter’s Basilica, Piaza Navona, Spanish Steps, Trevi Fountain, the Roman Forum, the Vatican Musuems… and it’s all so spectacular.

But I was miserable because I was against the clock the whole time.

At one point, I saw this awesome gladiator helmet that a street vendor was selling. I wanted to buy it, and I did.

The moment she saw the price she screeched, “Twenty euros!”

Here I was on a vacation, trying to enjoy the fruits of my hard work and she’s not having it. I didn’t hear the end of it for the rest of our trip. That’s because I violated Plank #2 of her Travel Manifesto.

But that didn’t stop me from violating the others.

The Hotel Turner, where we stayed.

The Hotel Turner, where we stayed.

When we first arrived in Rome, we had found our hotel and she was ready to hit the city immediately – that must have been on her itinerary. But I was starving.

We don’t stop at a local shop to eat (where you know the food is going to be awesome). What do we do instead?

To abide by the plans she made, we were to take a bus to our first destination (the Vatican Museum) and we would get something to eat there.

And more than an hour and a half later, I ate the worst reheated (by way of a microwave) linguine ever in my entire life – in Rome!

She agreed that the food was horrible, but it didn’t help matters when it came to her must follow itinerary. She pushed on, and pushed me along with it.

I complained and complained and she responded to my complaints as vigorously as I dealt them. As a true dissident, I violated Plank #3 of her manifesto – speaking out against her Ruling Power.

And later on during our trip I tossed Plank #1 aside when we visited the Coliseum. We were supposed to go through the guided tour together. But the moment I got my headphones, she went one way with her Audio Guided tour, and I went in the exact opposite direction. I veered from the itinerary – with a big grin on my face.

Lots of bickering minus the mandatory makeup sex.

To reiterate, my wife and I love each other deeply. In fact, this coming December 3rd is our tenth year anniversary.

The best Linguine Con Vongole I have ever eaten in my life!

The best Linguine Con Vongole I have ever eaten in my life!

And while we did fight a lot on our trip to Rome and didn’t enjoy as much intimacy as we would have hoped, we were still together doing our thing. In retrospect, I really enjoyed Rome and all that it has to offer and so did she. We still talk about it and will for the rest of our lives together.

Right before the end of our trip, we did manage to patronize a small little restaurant where I had the best Linguine Con Vongole I have ever eaten in my life – all arranged by my Barcelonan Bride.

– Meetch Martinez

Meetch Martinez is the founder of husband-ology.com. Married for nearly a decade, he’s learned (often times the hard way) how much work is truly involved in building a healthy, happy and rewarding marriage. With his psychobabble free, no-nonsense style of writing, he constantly contributes to the development of other peak performing husbands (as well as his own).

He enjoys writing about sex, conflict resolution, romance, finances, and everything in between – when it comes to married life.

@1000Fights  A huge thanks to the Martinez for sharing their Roman Holiday!  Check out Meetch’s Blog, it is a ton of fun.  Would you like to share your couple travel adventure on our site?  Drop us a line.  We would love to have you.

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5 Reasons to Go to Costa Rica Now

The Fighting Couple takes on Costa Rica!  Sure, it’s tropical, offers tons of activities, but it’s also cheap and you can buy chocolate at the source. Here’s the top five reasons to book your ticket today!

5. Chocolate

The Fighting Couple doesn’t go anywhere without chocolate. You can’t get any closer to organic chocolate than the cacao fields of Costa Rica. There are several tours for chocolate lovers, if that’s the priority. We enjoyed tasting the chocolate at local markets. Nahua Chocolate, one of the leading chocolatiers, was next door to our hotel and was our first stop. We enjoyed hot chocolate (I know, ironic in Costa Rica) and stocked up for the rest of the trip, while we watched the miracle of chocolate truffle creation. The comfortable and hip atmosphere coupled with the historical artifacts, makes this chocolatier a must see in San Juan.

Watch chocolate truffles being made at Nahau Chocolate.

Watch chocolate truffles being made at Nahau Chocolate.

4. You can be a beach bum or an adrenaline junkie

Top to bottom Costa Rica is teeming with beauty.   Take in its tropical mountains, sugary beaches, and 1000 Fights’ favorite: waterfalls! But the best part of Costa Rica is you can do whatever you want. Stay on the beach or zip line 600 feet in the air. Hike into the jungle in search of waterfalls, soak in natural hot pools, or swim in the hotel pool.  There are limitless activities.

Waterfalls are everywhere in Costa RIca!

Waterfalls are everywhere in Costa RIca!

3. Your Money Goes Further

Travel can be expensive. But Costa Rica isn’t. We paid around $700 round trip for our tickets from Boise or 60,000 Delta miles. Our hotels averaged $85-$100 an evening including a great spread for breakfast. That’s not to say there aren’t giant mansions you can rent or have your choice of upscale resorts. You can spend a lot of money, you just don’t have too. The most expensive part of the trip was the rental car. Get the insurance! It’s worth every penny. 

This is your view from an $85 a night hotel with breakfast included. Check out http://www.arenalmanoa.com/

This is your view from an $85 a night hotel with breakfast included. Check out http://www.arenalmanoa.com/

2. Food

The food in Costa Rica is good, really good. It’s also cheap. Our hotel breakfasts usually included a wide range of pastries, eggs, and beans and rice. A neighborhood Sopa usually charges around $5 to $7 for meat, rice, beans, and fresh vegetables. Costa Rica also has amazing steak houses. We paid $25 for a 12 ounce steak with all the sides. The beef was tender and the equivalent to any $75 NYC steak.

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Steak at one of the many steakhouses in Costa Rica.

1. No jet lag!

Costa Rica is actually in the Mountain Time Zone. Yes. I will repeat. Costa Rica is in the Mountain Time Zone. Sleepiness is one a the sad side effects of jet setting it across the world. It makes you foggy, groggy, and sometimes mean. That’s what makes Costa Rica perfect for us United States west coast dwellers. You have traveled to a completely foreign place and yet your body clock things you are still in Boise, Idaho. We enjoyed getting off the plane and realizing we weren’t 12 hours forward or backward, but could Facetime and email in real time. Avoiding jet lag gives you more time to enjoy being in Costa Rica!

 We hope you'll enjoy the Costa Rican sunsets as much as we did!

We hope you’ll enjoy the Costa Rican sunsets as much as we did!

What’s your favorite reason to go to Costa Rica?

 

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How to Read a Travel Blog

Travel blogs are quickly replacing the trusty, but dusty Frommer’s or Rick Steves’ guides as the go to resource for the modern and savvy traveler.  Today’s travel blogging community has expanded to become a viable resource to suit just about any traveler. But be aware, there a number of pros and pitfalls associated with using travel bloggers to plan your trip.  With this handy guide, you will be prepared to make the most of the travel blogs out there.  Lets go!

couple on ocean

Take the stress out of your vacation. Use a travel blog!

Picking the Right Travel Blog

Step one is the most obvious, you need to find blogs that match your travel style.  There is an ever-expanding collection of sites to choose from.  Blogs are reflections of those that write them.  Example, if you are looking for a carefree and relaxing solo vacation with the best booze joints:  The Fighting Couple is not for you.  Our focus is off the beaten path, history focused sites from a couple perspective (and we don’t drink).  Surf a lot of sites.  Most travel blogs, including our,s have link love pages (here is ours).  This is a great way to quickly hop from one site to the next in your quest for the perfect fit.

The about me/us section are often helpful tools to quickly evaluate the site’s focus.  Granted a baby boomer can learn something from a 20 something blogger, but the perspective would be clearly different.  Let’s give it a try.

Go ahead and enter www.suzyguese.com

Click on the about section and give it a quick scan.

Here’s what we can quickly divine:

Female (redhead!)

Solo travel

Many mentions of Italy and Europe

25-35 age group

Simple huh?  After you check out the about section that fits your travel style, look for the site’s search button.  Type in the location you are looking for.  On Suzy’s site, I typed in Rome and quickly found a dozen posts on the city.  From there, you can quickly scan the headlines to find the post that best fits your travel needs.

Get Interactive

The best part of reading travel blogs are their interactivity.  You can’t ask a Frommer’s book a question, no offence to Mr. or Mrs Frommer.  Travel bloggers are passionate about travel and the locations they feature.  Most travel blogs offer a comments section where you can ask questions and interact with other readers.  Cool huh?  You can also share your experiences right there for the rest of the community.  Candidly, this is our fave part of travel blogging.  Join the discussion.   Travel bloggers are also adept at social media.  Engage them on Twitter or Facebook.   Ask your questions free of charge!  If that is not enough, most bloggers offer some form of a contact me section, where you can send direct questions.  Most will answer you right back!  Here’s a little secret: travel bloggers use other travel bloggers to find new and exciting locations, restaurants and hotels.  During our recent trip to Budapest, we sent out  shout out to help us find the best goulash.  In a matter of seconds our friend @confusedjulia pinged us back with an awesome recommendation: Kadar Restaurant.  It ended up being our fave meal of the trip.

travel blogging couple

Travel bloggers: The Fighting Couple fight their way through Peru.

Mix and Match

One of the fun things that blogs offers are micro niches.  Use a combo of different genres of blogs to plan you trip.  The fun part of using blogs is that you can read a foodie blog to plan out your gastronomic visits, then check out a fashion blogger to tell you where to snag the best designer deals.  One blog we follow, Beers and Beans offers great tips on taking really good travel pictures.  The travel blogging world is a virtual buffet of travel insights!  Best of all, its free!

Blogging is a lot of work.  Often the only payday we have are the kind comments of our readers.  If you find a blogger that you identify with, shoot them a quick line telling them how much their advice meant.  It also doesn’t hurt to give one of their ads a click.

A Few Cautions About Travel Bloggers

The old adage, “you get what you pay for”…  is true.  There are a few pitfalls to using travel blogs as your single source for travel planning.  But if you look past a few spelling errors and are aware of a few drawbacks up front, you will find your visits more meaningful.

warning sign

Warning!

Challenge What You Read

I have heard it said that if you get 99 travel bloggers in a room you would end up with 100 opinions!  We tend to be a very discriminating bunch.  We strongly believe in our take on the world.  So much so, we broadcast it around the planet.  Our take on the world, a country, a hotel, a restaurant is jaded.  We view it through the lens of our own perspective.  Challenge what you read.  Look to more than one source.    Case in point: sometimes we get exhausted as we travel.  I know…it can happen to anyone.  After a grueling day, the last museum or church of the day might not get the rave review.  Someone else on the other hand, hit that one in the morning and it changed their life.  Challenge what you read.

Bloggers Travel on the Cheap

The life of a lonely travel blogger is difficult.  Except for a small handful, full time travel bloggers are barely making a living.  Sad, but true.  Travel blogging offers an exciting lifestyle, but no one is getting rich.  Many more, including the Fighting Couple do it part-time.  Most travel bloggers travel on the cheap.  More often than not, you will read hostel reviews 2 to 1 in the travel blog world.  We don’t stay in hostels…its not our thing.  Again, search out the blogger you identify with and your wallet can hang with.

Bloggers are Biased

Its no secret that bloggers are given free stays and free tours.  Destinations pay to bring in bloggers to review a resort or area.  Tourism is a business, a huge business.  Be aware that a glowing review of a resort that lacks any sort of critique might be a lame attempt by a blogger to keep their client “happy.”  Look for a sponsored tag somewhere on the post.  This can clue you in that there could be some editorial pressure.  Sponsored trips are not all bad for the reader.  Bloggers are often given inside advice and insights that would serve you well.  We always try to make it clear when we are “comped” and we always make it clear that we are going to be honest in our review.  We are the “Fighting Couple” after all!!

Where Blogs go to Die

Reality check: Most blogs don’t survive.  Every day new blogs are born and some fade away.   The blogosphere is littered the corpses of former vibrant travel logs.  Always check the date of the last post.  This will let you know if the blog has a pulse.  Don’t read dead blogs.  Too much changes over time.  A once great hotel or location can fall apart fast.  There is a reason that even Rick Steves in the “tree killing realm” updates his books every few years.  Too much changes.

Even with these drawbacks, blogs still offer the novice to the most advanced traveler an unrivaled peek at some of the best destinations on the planet.  Keys to effectively utilizing blogs: 1) Find a blog that matches your travel style. 2) Study the about sections to get feel of blogger personality. 3) Mix and match other blog genres.

We truly hope you find that best travel blog that matches your travel style.  Happy hunting!

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How to Conquer Your Fear of Flying

Do you have a fear of flying?

Are you a nervous flyer?

Recently one of our loyal readers confided in us that she LOVED travel but was a bit of a “nervous flyer”.  For her, the thought to getting on an airplane nearly ruins her rare vacations.  Candidly, Mike and I fly a lot for our “day jobs” and flying has become a bit routine.  We really couldn’t relate in a meaningful way.  In our search for something that might help, we came across Captain (ret.) Tom Bunn.  The former Air Force supersonic jet pilot, commercial airline captain,  turned therapist helps people everyday conquer their qualms about flying.  We caught up with Captain Tom and asked him some tough questions:

Are planes really that strong?  Can they withstand strong turbulence “bumps”?

Yes. Absolutely. If you look at videos on youtube of wing testing, you see wings bent almost into a u-shape. That’s during testing. In actual flight, you never see the wings move 1 percent of what these tests show the wing can take.

We have a free app that measures G-forces during turbulence. The plane is built to handle a continuous 2.5 Gs with no damage to the plane. It is built to handle twice that, but may need repair. On the G-force meter is a variation of 0.2 Gs during light turbulence – variation from a normal 1 G up to 1.2 G and down to 0.8 G. In severe turbulence, the variation would be around .6 G, thus up to 1.6 and down to 0.4 G.

There is no safety problem. But, knowing the plane is up high, and aware of all that space between the plane and the earth, it is easy to imagine the plane falling. Free-fall is a zero G condition. Free-fall never happens. But, when a person feels lightheadedness at around 0.8 G, due to anxiety they may think the plane is falling, which of course, is not the case. By using the free app in flight turbulence, an anxious passenger can scientifically prove the plane is not falling. They can also prove the plane nowhere near its limits.  Flying anxiety be gone!

fear of flying

In the air….the safest place to be.

Why don’t pilots give us the full story?  They know that a section is going to bumpy that day, yet they don’t tell us right out of the gate?

They don’t know the full story in advance because Clear Air Turbulence forecasts are not reliable. The best CAT forecasts can do is specify areas where, due to jet stream activity, turbulence is possible. The only reliable information is what we hear on the radio from other pilots ahead of us on the same route. Even so, conditions change from minute to minute. When a pilot twenty minutes ahead reports turbulence, when we get there, it may be smooth. Of visa versa. A pilot ahead reports it is smooth, and when we get there it is bumpy.

Not knowing more doesn’t bother pilots because they know turbulence is not a safety problem. Pilots are mystified that passengers fear turbulence. It is my belief that turbulence causes fear in a round about way. Anxious fliers try to control anxiety by keeping the flight out of mind. If the flight is smooth, they may be able to pretend they are not on a plane, but are sunning on a beach. But if there is turbulence, this pretense falls apart and the person comes face-to-face with the reality that they are on a plane, 30,000 feet up, and that they not in control. If they start to panic, they have no way to stop it because they have no means of escape. In other words, fear of turbulence is fear of fear. And, when they feel afraid, they tend to believe there must be danger. There is no danger of the plane crashing, but there is danger of emotionally crashing.

fear of flying

One of Capt. Bunn’s suggestions is to meet the pilot prior to take off.

Often we hear pilots say we are going through light “chop”…what exactly does that mean in English?

Chop is like the ride you get on a speedboat she the surface of a lake is choppy. If the bumps are regulate, or rhythmic, we call it chop; if irregular, we call it turbulence.

 

Crazy question, do pilots feel the same level of turbulence as passengers?

Actually, it is an interesting question. Pilots spend so much time in turbulence every week that they get immune to it. Turbulence is so ordinary thing that pilots often don’t even notice it. I’ve gotten calls for irate flight attendants asking why I haven’t turned the seat belt on. I hadn’t even noticed the turbulence. They did because, though they are used to it, they have trouble serving passengers during turbulence. So, they want the seat best sign on so passengers will understand they need to discontinue service..

In turbulence a pilot regards turbulence regards as of no consequence, an anxious passenger can be terrified. Why? First, because turbulence makes it impossible for them to pretend they are not on a plane. And second, because a part of the brain releases stress hormones when something takes place that the person is not used to. If the plane drops twenty times in a minute, a pilot gets no stress hormone release. But, passengers, who are not used to turbulence, get twenty shots of stress hormones. These hormones add up and cause a high level of arousal. A psychologically secure person regards arousal as arousal. But a psychologically insure person equates arousal with fear, and fear with danger.

That is a point that anxious fliers need to catch on to. To the anxious flier, arousal = fear = danger. That is not true. Arousal is just arousal. Fear is an interpretation of the meaning of the arousal. The anxious flier’s interpretation is wrong; the fear they feel does not mean danger. On the other hand, some believe lack of fear means safety. That’s wrong, too. Driving late at night, some drivers you encounter are impaired. since you don’t know that, you don’t feel fear. Though you are in very real danger,  you don’t feel afraid at all. When flying, you can be completely safe, and due to imagination, believe you are in danger.

fear of flying

The only turbulence in the air should be between you and your lover.

Is it safe to fly through thunder storms?

The plane is safe when flying through thunder storms. But we don’t do it. We have weather radar that is color coded – green, yellow, and red – to show the intensity of a thunderstorm. We try to avoid them completely, but if we can’t we go through a green area.

 

The best dressed in the sky!  Have you read out post about Flight Fashion?

Is it better to fly in the morning, afternoon or evening for a “smoother” flight?

Morning is the better because it is usually less windy and the thunderstorms have not had time in the sun to billow up to great heights.

 

With the whole “lap child” incident not long ago, are children safe on laps of parents?

I’m sure that if the parent holding that child had not been caught by surprise, there would have been no problem. How can I be sure? Because the child did not go far out of the parent’s arms. Since the child did not continue upward and hit the ceiling, the force was not great.

 

In your experience, which airport is the worst for turbulence?  Denver, PHX other?

Denver is the worst because the Rockies extend up to 14,000 feet. The Rockies disturb the air flowing eastward from 14,000 feet down to the ground. When flying at 15,000 feet, the air can be completely smooth, and then when you hit 14,000 feet, you get turbulence,, and that turbulence usually lasts all the way to the ground. Perhaps knowing that this is really very mechanical and predictable may help an anxious passenger think of it as normal for Denver, which it is. Phoenix – and Las Vegas – get turbulent in the afternoon due to the sun heating up the surface of the desert.

 

What is your take on allowing cell phone calls on planes?

As in a theater or a restaurant where you are necessarily close to other people, I would rather not be bothered by that.

1000Fights:  We agree!  NO CALLS!

cell phone yelling

No calls on planes!

 

I fly a fair amount…once a month-ish.  I am not afraid of flying, but I am a nervous flyer.  Bumps can unnerve me.  Any suggestions on overcoming that fear?

First, know it is safe. Second, know you get shots of stress hormones because the bumps – to you – are not routine. The arousal that results  is just arousal. Arousal is not fear. There is no danger. Third, use the app to prove everything is OK, that the plane is not overstressed, nor is it falling.

 

Something we have always wondered…why do they fly so far north when flying from the states to asia and Europe?

It is actually the shortest distance. That would be obvious if you were looking for the shortest distance on a globe. If you stretch a string from your departure point in the U.S. to your destination in Europe, the string goes over Canada, and just south of Greenland and Iceland. A globe is, as the earth is, spherical. A paper map, being flat, has a lot of distortion. It makes it look like the shortest route is much father south than it really is.

 

What is the most difficult case of flight fright you have ever had to work with?

Really difficult cases involve “psychic equivalence.” If the person repeatedly imagines disaster, they produce a condition called psychic equivalence. In this condition, what is in the mind (imagination: what one fears will happen) is – when stress hormones build up – accepted as real.

Most people can distinguish imagination from reality. But for some,, when they FEEL like something is true, to them it is true. If they FEEL something is going to happen, they “just know” it is going to happen. And, if another person tries to tell them otherwise, they get nowhere. The mind is locked. They “just know” if they get on the plane, they will die. As ridiculous as that sounds, it happens to a lot of people who having trouble flying.

fear of flying

Capt. Tom Bunn

Captain Tom Bunn, an airline captain and licensed therapist, is President and founder of SOAR, Inc.’

Website:  www.fearofflying.com

twitter:  Capt. Tom Bunn

Captain Bunn has helped over 5,000 people overcome difficulty with flying. He was part of the first fear of flying program, which was started at Pan Am in 1975.  He founded SOAR in 1982; and to offer the most effective help possible, he completed graduate school to become a therapist. He spent five additional years in training at psychological institutes, finally developing a therapy that has made it possible for everyone to fly

1000Fights:  Thank you kindly to Captain Tom for taking our questions about flying.  We hope that there was something that proved helpful.  We definitely want all the Fighting Couples out there to love Flying.  If you are struggling with a fear of flying, give Captain Tom’s program a try.    Happy travels!

 

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How to Speak Australian

In prep for our upcoming trip to Australia this summer we asked our friend Alistair McGuinness an “outback specialist” to give us quick course in being and speaking Australian.

On your way to Australia?

Think you know the language?

They speak English don’t they?

Well think again.

After 10 years in the country I have picked up some of the lingo (language).

Here is a few examples of what to expect.

 How to Speak Australian

Bush tucker is the name given for natural food native to Australia (kangaroos, Emu, Lizard, berries etc.)

Boozer is another name for pub.

A bluey is the Australian term for a couple having an argument.

A Sheila is a name sometimes jokingly used for a woman

Stubby is what Australians call a bottle of beer

Yakka is a term used for work.

So if you hear an Australian say:

I’ve just had a bluey with the Shiela about who does the hard Yakka round here. I’m off to the boozer for a few stubbies and on the way home will get me self some bush tucker.”

Then now you will know that he has just had a fight with his wife!

So apart from the language, what else is different?

The Beautiful Down Under

12 apostles

12 Apostles Monument

The coastline of Australia measures over 20,000 miles and with such a large land mass, it’s possible to follow the sun all year round, as you traverse the smallest continent in the world. But this takes time, effort and finances. Australia has long been marketed for its beach culture, balmy evening’s, and endless skies and many travellers flock to the outer perimeter to soak up the atmosphere. Sydney draws the crowds and rightly so. It boasts a stunning harbour and has two iconic attractions, the harbour bridge and the Opera House.

When my friend and his wife came to Australia from the UK, they opted for a full tour of Sydney and spent days exploring the coffee shops, beachside shopping parades and hidden coves. Mel was in her element amongst the trendy back streets but my best friend Steve craved adventure away from civilisation. Their holiday was in danger of losing its way, unless there were compromises.

This is how they came to be in the outback, the epicentre of ancient Australia. Darwin is the capital of the Northern Territories and I met them at the airport a few days later. Maybe it was the extreme humidity, or a touch of jet lag but I sensed a disparity between them as we made our way to the nearest hotel.

Within days, the wildness of the outback had captured their imaginations. The extreme humidity was somehow liberating, as they embraced the empty roads, red dirt and chance encounters with wildlife.

At river crossings they were warned about man eating crocodiles, at road stations they met local characters who shared numerous tales about life in the bush.
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Go Walkabout

Most that venture into the heartland, do so in air conditioned comfort and find themselves in an ancient world of shimmering deserts and lonely roads. Uluru (Ayers Rock) is the magnetic attraction that draws visitors from every part of the globe, but to really feel the outback you need to ditch the air conditioned coach with its multi lingual coach driver and “Go Walkabout.”

Kangaroos

Kangaroos!

Walkabout is a term used by Australians to describe the spiritual journey undertaken by adolescent Aboriginals to earn their rite of passage into manhood, in which the youngsters would spend up to six months alone in the wilderness.

Walkabouts still occur in Australia, although these days, most are done in four wheel drive and are enjoyed by anyone who loves adventure!

Before you are tempted to stop the air conditioned bus, grab your bags and romantically trek into the outback then stop right now!

The Australian interior can be a dangerous environment, with extreme temperatures and the vast red centre can easily lure you into danger. Each summer there are reports of missing travellers, disoriented explorers and lost gold prospectors. Some are unlucky and succumb to dehydration and each year there are deaths.

If you are considering travelling into the interior, then preparation is critical. If you want to see the real Australia, not its coffee strips, shopping malls and drive through bottle shops then consider going walkabout with an Aborigine.

Steve and Mel found an aboriginal guide called Patsy, who lives in Kakadu National Park and offered to take them on walkabout. Within hours of meeting, they were walking across ancient game trails, hunting for their dinner.

Patsy gave each of them a long wooden stick and explained where to look for tortoises and how to poke under the moist earth then listen for the sound as the pole hit a shell. She was a natural provider and while they squelched and poked in the mud she successfully probed and oozed two hibernating tortoises from the soft earth and handed them to Steve.

I was standing nearby and overheard their conversation.

“Hey mister. Hold please.”

Steve took hold of the tortoise and stroked the gnarly neck affectionately.

“No time to stroke the tortoise mister. Your wife is hungry, so break the neck and then we eat.”

Patsy walked away, in search of more bush tucker. Steve’s children watched in awe as he killed their dinner. His wife saw this man in a new light. He was now a hunter!

Kangaroo sign

Not your typical sign?

There wasn’t anything else on the menu and no restaurant for hundreds of miles. The dissected geese was wrapped in green leaves and paperbark from nearby tree, then roasted on rocks that had been heated in the fire.

At sunset, a herd of wild buffalo trampled past our camp while we devoured the turtle and magpie. For desert, Patsy took Steve and Mel to a nearby tree, rolled her hand along the smooth trunk and collected a palm full of ants. She crushed them into a ball and ate the lot. “Come taste.” She laughed. “Lemon ants”

By sunset they sat in silence by the fire and watched the last of the buffalo disappear into the wilderness and the friction that I sensed at Darwin airport melted away.

Australia is a mystical place, filled with intrigue. Its cities are modern, its outback towns friendly and the beaches are some of the best in the world.

I hope you find the Australia you are looking for and if you do have a bluey with your partner, I suggest taking a romantic stroll onto the Opera House foreshore and enjoying an outdoor picnic of fresh prawns, washed down with a chilled bottle of white wine.

Happy travels!

 

Alistair McGuinness

 

Alistair McGuinness

My adventure travel book is called Round the Bend

www.thecreativenomad.co

 

 

 

 

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Cologne for Couples

What is the most romantic city in Germany?  We would make a strong case for Cologne!  With its 2000 plus years of history, the city is beckoning to be explored.   We put together a few ideas to help you create the perfect couples trip to Cologne.

 Mr.Cake CupCake Manufaktur

Lets start our couples tour of Cologne at our fave site, Mr. Cupcake!  We always say: Life is short…start with dessert.  Mr. Cake is no ordinary Cupcakery.  He is the Picasso of the modern cupcake.  Each delicious creation is a work of art.  Sweetness to the very last bite.  The bakery boasts that it only uses exclusive Belgian chocolate and eggs from “happy chickens” (they said it, we didn’t.)  Regardless of the disposition of the chickens, the end result is nothing short of amazing.  Try flavors that include: Apple Cinnamon Royal, Poppy Seed Royal, and of course the original: Mr. Cake chocolate.  The good news is these little morsels of joy are priced reasonably!  You will shell out 5 euros for two delightful cakes.  You cant beat that price!  Don’t worry about the calories, we are going to work those off further down the list. (Mr. CupCake Filzengraben 1-3 – 50676 Köln http://www.mrcake.de/)

The Love Locks of Cologne

Do you want your love to last forever?  Yes?  Then you need to head over to the Hohenzollern Bridge and affix a love lock to the “wall of love”.  If you are able, shell out a few euros and have a lock engraved with you and your lover’s names.  Once you lock your love to the bridge, simply toss the key into the Rhine River below.  If the tradition holds you love will prove true.  Do us a favor…don’t quit fighting though.  The lovely stroll across the bridge is a bonus couple activity.

Aachen

Our next stop in our couple’s quest is not located in Cologne, but an hour east of the city.  A lovely side trip for an afternoon is to the quaint town of Aachen.  Located on the Belgium border, this little burg is bubbling with romance.  The city was once home to Charlemagne or Charles the great depending on which history book you read.  We do have a strong recommendation on how to get there.  Take the train.  Trust us, avoid the fights and stress of driving and navigating.

“Traveling by train is definitely the most interesting and romantic way to travel. You have a chance to see the landscape and enjoy your journey in a relaxed way.”, says Naren Shaam, founder and CEO of GoEuro.

Aachen Cathederal

Aachen Cathederal

Once in Aachen, make your way to the city center.  There a number of delicious bakeries, chocolate shops, and coffee houses are waiting for you and your lover.  Once you have recharged, head into the church.  It is one of the most beautiful and warm gothic structures we have ever entered.  The treasury in the back has an amazing collection of Charlemagne artifacts.  Items include holy relics and even part of the arm bone of Charlemagne himself.  Once the sun sets, they light up the exterior of the church.  We took some amazing pictures.  Simply beautiful.  Get back on the train for the short trip back to Cologne.

Charlemagne arm

Mike giving Charlemagne’s remaining arm a high five.

Cologne Cathedral

How could you visit Cologne and not tour the Grand Cologne Cathedral?  This world heritage site and monument is smack dab in the center of town and cannot be missed.  According to the cathedral’s website, construction on the church was commenced in 1248, halted in 1473 and finished in 1880.  It is the largest gothic church in all of Northern Europe.  Some 20,000 people visit the church a day.  One reason that it survived WWII was it was used as a navigational reference for allied pilots.

Cologne Cathederal

Cologne Cathederal

Chocolate Museum

If you didn’t get your chocolate fix from Mr. Cupcake, head over to Cologne’s own Chocolate Museum.  Located on its own island in the Rhine, this unique museum caters to children with interactive displays on chocolate making and history.  The museum is sponsored by Lindt Chocolate so if you are a fan, this is your place.  For the adults there are a number of yummy tasting stations that are included for the price of admission.  The museum includes a company store and café.  (http://www.schokoladenmuseum.de/)

Chocolate Museum Cologne

Chocolate Museum

Koelner Seilbahn

Some of the best views of the city are available from the high perch of the Koelner Seilbahn  (Cologne Cable Cars).  These cars take you on a journey across the Rhine that you will never forget.  The only drawback is that the cable cars only run from April to October.  The Cable car begins and ends at the Zoobridge.  The view of the cathedral is definitely the highlight of the short trip. (http://www.koelner-seilbahn.de/)

Claudius Therme

Its time to heat things up a little.   After hiking all around Cologne, we are sure that you are exhausted.  It is time for some relaxation.  Look no further than the Claudius Therme.  What is interesting about these hot springs is that they are relatively new.  Unlike the old Roman bathes of Baden-Baden or even Budapest, these springs were developed in the mid 1970s.  The water temp ranges 91-100 degrees F.  If you are lucky enough to time your visit on the weekends, they offer underwater music and lights to enhance the bathing.  The “healing” waters are also enriched with salt from the Dead Sea!  (http://www.claudius-therme.de/)

We hope that you enjoy your couple’s trip to Cologne.

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The How-to Guide to Traveling in Sin

Meet George and Lisa of the couple travel blog: “We Said Go Travel”.  They are hands down, one of the deans of the couple travel blogging world.  In 2013, this dynamic duo penned a hilarious and candid travel memoir titled”Traveling in Sin”.    The book outlines one of the most epic online hookups of all time.   Their wide-eyed adventures have taken them around the globe including adventures in French Polynesia, New Zealand and Mongolia.

We Said Go Travel   www.wesaidgotravel.com

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Twitter @wesaidgotravel

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Buy the book:  Our memoir: Traveling in Sin 

George and Lisa were gracious enough to sit down with the Fighting Couple to answer a few questions.

Traveling couple

Lisa and George of We Said Go Travel

1)     Lisa, we hate to start off with this one, but it is the new year…  You are so BEAUTIFUL!  We read the article about your weight transformation.  Give us some pointers for eating and living healthy in the new year.  How do you make healthy choices when you travel? 

She Said: Thank you! George is a big help in making healthy choices. We eat regular meals and we do not snack while traveling. When we are going to spend all day on a bus, we prepare by finding foods to eat on the road so we are not tempting by ice cream and candy. I think the most important thing is to not get too hungry (or tired) because then it is harder to make good choices.

 

2) If you had to travel with someone else besides your travel partner, who would it be?  (this person can be living, historical or mythical?.)

He Said: My friend, Dr. Jimmy because he makes me laugh, he is fun to be with and I know we would have a good time.

She Said:  Charles Darwin: I read a great book about his experiences, experiments and adventures in the Galapagos when I was young. I have always wanted to go and it would be incredible to travel and study science with him there!

 

3)  You are both highly educated.  What has been the reaction of some of your associates as you headed out on your world adventure?

He said: People in my life are so accustomed to me traveling on every vacation from the education system that I don’t think anyone was too surprised when we left for a longer trip.

She said:  When I first left graduate school and ended up spending seven years on cruise ships, people thought I was nuts! After returning to Los Angeles and getting settled after September 11th when my cruise line went bankrupt, no one including me thought I would travel long term again. My sabbatical adventure with George, which we wrote about in our memoir, Traveling in Sin, was as much a surprise to me as my associates. When we left in July 2012 for this journey, it seemed very natural!

 

Travel couple

We Said Go Kiss?

4)  Members of the Travelers Century Club?  Wow!  Curious, what has been your favorite destination in your wanderings? Why?

He said: I don’t have a favorite place but my favorite sector of the world is Asia, particularly Thailand, Nepal and Indonesia. The reason is the value, the unique culture, the architecture and food.

She said: I have so many favorites! I loved our ten-day journey in the Gobi Desert of Mongolia, trekking in Nepal and the beaches of Thailand. In our latest travel writing contest, one of the writers wrote about Murree, Pakistan where everyone goes on honeymoon and now I want to go there and meet her!

 

5)  As an educator Lisa, how has travel enhanced your ability to teach?  How are you able to help other teachers?

She Said: Sharing travel stories in the classroom has been one of my students’ favorite things. When we talked about physics in our unit, “May the Force be With You,” I mentioned that stupas in Sri Lanka are round and not all buildings are built in squares and rectangles. One of my first grade students raised her hand and said,  “Mrs. Rajna, that is just like the gers in Mongolia where you stayed in those tents!” I said, “You are right! What a great connection!”

I founded a peer-to-peer professional development group in Los Angeles which now was over seventy schools participating. Through the network, I have been able to share about teaching and traveling and the importance of integrated education. I was invited to be the first teacher on the national television show, Career Day, and share the life of a teacher!

 

 

6) If you could solve one problem in the world what would it be?

He said: Hunger and poverty.

She said: I would like to make sure everyone has clean water, plenty of food and a safe place to live. For my birthday last year, I organized a 45×45 project and together we raised enough money to help fifty refugee families from Darfur to receive solar cookers so that they can stay safe in the camp and not have to forage for wood outside.

Whale Sharks

George and Lisa swimming with Whale Sharks

7)You knew it was coming….What has been your greatest travel fight/disagreement?

He said: Deciding to return to America for family events.

She Said: We made a pact; when we have an early morning flight, there is no fighting. We used to always fight when we get up too early so now we have a plan. Early morning there is an automatic truce. No fighting allowed!

 

The Fighting Couple:  A huge thanks to George and Lisa for visiting with us and sharing their adventure.  They are great examples of making couple travel a reality.

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Best Places to Kiss in Budapest

When you think of the most romantic capitals of Europe places like Vienna, Paris and even Rome come to mind.   We want to add one under-discovered capital of love….Budapest, Hungary.  Straddling the blue Danube, this former eastern bloc country offers lovers wonderful vistas, inviting hospitality and delectable cuisine.  Budapest is often called the Paris of the east.  We would agree!  Here is our list for lovers:

 Love locks

Our first stop in our quest for all things romantic in Budapest is making a love lock.    The Couples declare their love with inscribed love locks.  Simply write your names on the lock and walk hand in hand across the Danube and toss the key into the river…then seal the ceremony with a kiss.  Love Lock Park is located at Erzsebet Square not far from the Chain Bridge along the Danube.  According to tradition, a love that is locked in Budapest will never fade!  So far so good!

love locks

Budapest Love Locks

Budapest’s Thermal Baths

Lets heat things up a little!  Dotted across the entire city of Budapest are wonderful geothermal hot springs.  Budapest’s spas and baths are truly world class.  One of the Fighting Couple’s favorites is the Szechenyi Baths Budapest.  It is the largest medicinal bath in all of Europe.    The prices are responsible.  They allow both sexes to bathe together( not all baths allow this…).  Szechenyi offers a wide selection of different pools for your choosing.  Each has a different mineral content as well as temperature.  The baths offer a wonderful dessert after hiking the hills of Budapest all day.  Sitting in the outdoor pools sneak a quick kiss in the wafting steam.

 

Szechenyi Bath

Szechenyi Bath

 

Fisherman’s Bastion

Located just across the Danube from the parliament, the Fisherman’s Bastion offers romantic views of the Danube.  Built in the 19th century, the wonderful castle like structure has 7 turrets representing the seven tribes that founded modern day Hungary.  Yes, it does resemble the castle of Walt Disneyland.  The entire area is well lit and is open to visitors year round day and night.  An evening stroll…hand in hand… along the bastions ramparts is the perfect setting for capturing a kiss.

Fisherman's Bastion

Fisherman’s Bastion

Four Seasons Budapest

Even if you don’t have the cash to stay the night, grab dessert at the Four Seasons Budapest.   Perched at the end of the chain bridge, this historic hotel’s vantage point of the Danube and the castle are impressive.  We would recommend the national dessert of Hungary: Poppy Seed Apple Cake.   The hotel is a perfect place to watch the sun set over the Buda hills.

Stroll down a Parisian lane

A little known secret of Budapest is that is has a Parisian flair.  The tree lined boulevards almost make you forget where you are!  The streets of Budapest are very walkable.  Small pastry and coffee shops call out to star-crossed lovers.  Hand holding with your loved one along one of these thoroughfares is nothing short of magical.

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Budapest’s Opera House

How about stealing a kiss during intermission at one of the most historic opera houses in Eastern Europe?  Housed in the neo-Renaissance style masterpiece, the Hungarian Opera is one of the finest in the world.  According to the results of testing done in the mid 1970s by a group of international engineers the opera house has the 3rd best acoustics in Europe after La Scala in Milan, Italy and the Grand Palais Garnier in Paris!  Impressive!  The opera offers a mix of contemporary and classical offerings.  An evening at the Budapest Opera is not to be missed.

 

Budapest at night

View from the Fisherman’s Bastion

Danube cruise

We have saved the best for last.  Take a candle light dinner cruise along the Danube River.  How can you top that?  There are a handful of operators that can arrange for your cruise.  Some offer high end 7 course meals.  Others have more a party atmosphere with live music and dancing.  The choice is yours.  As you boat past the city line of Budapest, you will agree, this is one of the most romantic cities in the world.

 

How did we do?  Would you add any romantic locations to our list?  Budapest is truly the best place to kiss!

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7 Way to Add Spice to Your Relationship

We interrupt our regularly scheduled travel programming for a dash of relationship RX.  Ok, its 2014.  Do you want to improve your relationship?  What is your plan?  As the New Year begins we want to help you find a few little ways to spice up your relationship.  We asked some of our favorite relationship gurus for the one thing that would help couples the most.  They came up with some pretty incredible ideas.  Regardless if you have been together two weeks or two decades, these tried and true suggestions will make a huge difference.  Pick one of these things and give it a try in the new year!

1)  I really appreciate it when you….

Relationship coachWe are continually on a journey of learning to love each other.  Ask your partner for a list of 10 things they would like to be appreciated more for and how they would like it said.  “I really appreciate that you almost always cook. It’s so great.” Then, make a point to say these things over the next 30 days. Maybe they will like it so much, they will ask for your list.

Jessica Sabatini—FindingMyRealLove.com

2)  Love or Like

For just marriage advice, probably our number one is “Love them even when you don’t like them. Respect and care for your spouse even when they are being annoying. You can find a way around irritating.”

Gregory— @ratedgromance

 3) Create a Loving Ritual

Finding loveWant to warm up your relationship quickly? Show your appreciation on a regular basis! Whether your partner does something big or small, tell him or her how much you appreciate the time and effort. You can also create a loving ritual where you share three things you appreciate about each other every time you see each other or if living together, before you go to sleep. This is a wonderful way to connect and acknowledge your partner and keep your love alive.

Ronnie Ann Ryan—  www.NeverTooLate.biz

 4)  Trust Each Other

Rated G RomanceI’d encourage couples to work on developing trust. For some, that means trusting that the occasional cold wind or thoughtless gesture from our loved one is not the harbinger of doom for the relationship. For others, it is as simple as asking our spouse for what we need and trusting that they will do that for us. Vulnerability is required to build intimacy and trust is at the core of that vulnerability.

I’d encourage couples to work on trust. Lack of trust can keep us from explicitly asking our spouse for what we need from them. Why even ask if we don’t trust them to respond? Even worse, a lack of trust can make a thoughtless gesture feel like the harbinger of doom for the relationship which, ironically, can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. But if you trust in each other’s love, there is always hope to move forward and get over the bumps.

Gregory— @ratedgromance

Just a reminder…You can ask the Fighting Couple ANYTHING!

5)  Be on the Same Team

Sometimes love can feel like a battle.  Your sworn partner so easily becomes your enemy.  It’s important to remember that you are on the same team.  Start this year by creating a team name, and use it when you travel, do home projects, go to a stressful event.  It can be as simple as Team Sabatini.

Jessica Sabatini—  FindingMyRealLove.com

6)  Spice it up!

Spice up marriageHas sex in your marriage become routine, scripted and boring?  It doesn’t have to be this way. Profound sexual intimacy is possible when you devote yourself to understanding what arouses your spouse. Explore each other’s bodies this year with a renewed focus on touch, foreplay, tenderness and passion.

Julie Sibert—  www.IntimacyInMarriage.com

7)  Take a vacation!

If there is one thing that we would encourage couples to do is to block out some time to travel together.  There is something special about getting away from all the stress of work, family, and every day life.  Make time for a couple trip.  Leave the children with grandma and get away together.

The Fighting Couple— @1000Fights

We truly hope that these ideas give you some helpful objectives to work on together.  Relationships are so hard!  Add in the pressures of work, family, and everything else sometimes the most important person in our life takes the back burner.  Every year at this time, we set goals to lose weight or earn more money.  Are you setting goals to improve the most valuable thing in your life, your relationship?  We wish you the very best in your relationships this year!

 

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